Friday, March 27, 2015

foster care: what do you want to know?

We are foster parents.
We get asked a lot of questions about it.
We honestly don't mind the questions.  

Someone suggested to me recently that I write a post about foster care - what it is, what we do, ... -because a lot of people don't know much about it.  I've thought about it off and on, but I had an hour-long conversation with someone yesterday about foster care, and the "write a post" suggestion was in my mind all last night as I went to sleep.  

Now's the time!  But as I started planning what I would write, I quickly realized things would turn out better if I knew exactly what people wanted to know.  

So I'm opening it up.  I know some of what people are curious about, but I want to know what you want to know.  So please, fill out the form below!  Ask me anything!  Ask about what we do, how to qualify, how much we get paid, our specific situation... anything.  It's anonymous, so I won't know who asked what.  (And, if it makes you feel better, I really don't get offended by personal questions.)  If I can answer [legally], I will.  Also, know that we're in Utah, so any questions regarding licensing and policy will have answers specific to Utah's program.  

The better your participation, the better the outcome! :)  So.  What have you always (or recently) wanted to know about foster care?

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

1 reason I won't take my daughter to see (insert movie title here)

1. She doesn't really like watching movies.

Have you ever noticed that those posts come out every time a movie rated PG or lower is released?  Dear World, Some people love Disney movies and other people have issues with them.  I'm sure your daughters will turn out great, seeing how all those posts are evidence of how much you love them.  Love each other, too. :) Love, She


“The moral of this story is, firstly, that no one, however great he may be, should permit himself to jest at any one beneath him, even if he be only a hedgehog.  And, secondly, it teaches… whosoever is a hedgehog let him see to it that his wife is a hedgehog also, and so forth.”
“The Hare and the Hedgehog”

Friday, March 20, 2015

Play-Doh day

Child: That's BYU Cougars!
Me: Booyah!

Child: That's Utah Utes.
Me: You gotta learn your letters somehow.

Child: A jellyfish!!
Me: ...

Me: Tell me about it!
Child: It's a plant.

I also made a smiley face.  The response was, "Where's my forehead?"

Sorry I don't have pictures of cute faces!  Besides the fact that they're foster kids (and we're not allowed to post cute faces online), some of us have to do play-doh half-naked at this house.  #happyconfession 


Is Draco alive?  Is he in the castle?”
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Making stuff

Sometimes, every other week or so, life in the afternoon just gets boring.  So we make stuff.

Face paint, 

St. Patrick's Day wreaths...

They're all fun, really.


“Judging by your look of stunned disbelief, Harry did not warn you that I was coming,” said Dumbledore pleasantly.  “However, let us assume that you have invited me warmly into your house…”
Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

Friday, March 13, 2015


I don't know what to do!  I'm so conflicted!

I dislike hashtags outside of Twitter, as a general rule.  But after my non-depressing confessions post, I've had people use the tag!  So doesn't that mean I should use it, too?  Part of me wants to.  The other part wants to say no forever, on principle.

I'll probably use it.

But what about on Facebook, where I especially don't want to use them??

I don't have a Twitter account, so Facebook and here are the only place I'd ever use it.

These are the kinds of inner conflicts I have on a daily basis.


The scar had not pained Harry for nineteen years.  All was well.
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

wish list

Joel and I give each other a monthly allowance.  We can buy whatever we want with it, guilt-free.  

About me: I am a hoarder with money.  I always have been.  When I was younger, my siblings were always jealous because I had a lot of money just sitting around.  

However, every once in a while, I remember how much money I have saved up, and I just want to spend ALL OF IT.  (Note: When I say it's soooooo much, it's usually like, $137, which is about as much as it was when I was a kid, too...)

So.  I'm reading, seeing daily deals, getting emails from The Grommet [I want everything on that website], whatever, and I just want to buy everything.  
As you might imagine, when I go through these phases, I also am constantly reminding myself that most of what I want is unnecessary and I'll probably forget about it tomorrow.  (Maybe I do that to preserve my money stash?  For some reason I have a weird thing about not wanting to be below $100.  But I also dislike buying unnecessary extras.)  

But sometimes.
Sometimes I don't forget about it tomorrow.
And I know I still don't need it!
But I still keep the tab open, just in case...

That being said, here's what's on my "what I really want but have not justified buying [yet?], usually because it seems so expensive for what it is" list right now.

Seche Vite top coat.  Apparently, it keeps your nail polish on really well.  $5

Jelt - an elastic belt that supposedly lays flat and is super grippy on your pants.
Belts never work for me, so I'm easily attracted to belts that seem like they work.  $30

JUMBO - the most adorable cutlery drain ever.  (I say "cutlery drain" like anyone knows what that means.  Basically, you set it next to your sink, put wet stuff in it, and the water goes out of the trunk into the sink.)  I would totally use one of these for my dish scrubber thing.  $17.46

Lettermate - a spacing stencil for addressing envelopes.  I tell myself I would use this all the time.  Who knows if I actually would, but I want one SO BAD.  $14.95

"A monthly gift that rewards + uplifts mothers."  You pay a monthly fee (or you can just do one month) and get a box with 4-6 gifts in it.  For one month, it's $33, but the monthly price goes down the longer your subscription is.  I found this when I was having a particularly rough mothering day, so now I feel like I would love it?

What's on your list?


Dumbledore watched her fly away, and as her silvery glow faded he turned back to Snape, and his eyes were full of tears.  "After all this time?"
"Always," said Snape.
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

Friday, March 6, 2015

Dear Abby,

It can be excruciating!, lying there in bed, knowing you have the answer to someone's problem but not being allowed to share it.

I'm sorry if this sounds arrogant.  I don't want it to, it's just how I feel sometimes.
...but sometimes being perceptive and wise can be hard.
(Hey, [several of] you called me that first, not me.)

That's why I blog - sometimes, anyway.  So I can generalize my advice and share it with the world.  because sometimes that takes away the excruciating-ness of not being able to say it to who I think should hear it.  (And I allow myself to believe that maybe they read it and, without knowing I'm talking to them, take my words to heart.:)  


Stories give you a way to see things.  A way to understand the events of your life.
Even if you don't realize it while you're hearing the tale.