Monday, September 2, 2013

pet peeve

I don't mind if you complain or vent to me about a problem you're experiencing.  However.  When I (and/or others) present you with a variety of GREAT solutions and you don't even consider trying any of them, I hate that.  Also, you lose the right to complain or vent to me about that problem (and have me listen patiently) for the foreseeable future.   If the excuse you give for not trying anything is realistic and justified, you're okay.

Clarification: It doesn't bother me if you don't take my advice.  It bothers me when you hear everyone's advice and take none of it.  ...and then continue to complain (either about your lack of action or your bad actions).


"I have learned that we believe it is a strength to conceal weakness."  - Russ Hill


Bethany Johnson said...

Understandable. I know I do that, and I'm sure I'm the one who inspired this post. But honestly, it is hard to take in everyone's suggestions and spew out a positive response so they know I appreciate their suggestions and that I really am considering what they are saying.
I think reality is hard, and controlling reality is harder, so it is daunting seeing all of your options and deciding which ones you want to apply to yourself, and which ones make the most sense for you. It is especially hard to commit yourself to the options presented to you before mulling them over and shaping them to what would be most effective for you. I guess in the end, even if it doesn't seem like it, the people seeking advice in the first place are probably very appreciative of the advice and suggestions, and consider them when they are left to take control of reality.
At least, I hope they do. Because I appreciate it.

Brooke Evans said...

This! :D

Alison said...

HAHAHAHA! That is so perfect!

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